Some choices are obvious. The data, the analytics, the pros and cons — they point to a logical option.

And even with all that evidence, we can still struggle to decide.

Because we’re emotional beings. We have feelings about decisions. And feelings don’t always follow the logic.

The way we think about a choice and how we feel about that choice: they can be miles apart. Sometimes the hard part is bridging the gap.

Choose a plan that you think is a good one.

Stick to that plan.

Be patient with the results.

That’s the long and the short of it, isn’t it?

It’s not to be spectacular. It’s not to get lucky. It’s not to do the unreasonable or the untenable. It’s just to make a serious commitment to a thoughtful, reasonable plan. A plan that we ourselves author.

It’s not too much to ask and it’s not too much to do.

Slurred speech is difficult to follow. One word blends into another into another. It becomes unintelligible noise.

When life gets busy — or exceptionally uneventful — a similar thing can happen. One day flows into the next into the next. It’s Thursday already? What happened to the beginning of the week?

As articulation is to speech, so are simple journals and logs to life. Brief, intentional notes that mark time. Captured memories to honor the bits and bobs of our existence.

Life will course regardless. Daily moments of reflective attention help us to appreciate the journey as it unfolds.

We can learn a lot from Jimmy Carter’s example. His impact in the world — particularly post-presidency — is astounding. This quote says much about how he lived:

“I have one life and one chance to make it count for something. I’m free to choose what that something is, and the something I’ve chosen is my faith. Now, my faith goes beyond theology and religion and requires considerable work and effort. My faith demands — this is not optional — my faith demands that I do whatever I can, wherever I am, whenever I can, for as long as I can with whatever I have to try to make a difference.”

A model of integrity and an inspiration to many.

“One day, spring will come without her.”

This poignant line is from the delightful novel The Thursday Murder Club, written by Richard Osman.

In this phrase, one of the main characters is acknowledging her mortality, prompting her to enjoy the daffodils by the lake while she’s still there to see them.

It’s a gentler version of the old Latin chestnut, memento mori.

May we all live long lives. But still, best to enjoy the beauty of each season as though it’s the last one we’ll witness.

Seek out the daffodils.

I tried a new sport and discovered that I was not a natural. It taxed muscles I don’t often train and required techniques of which I had no knowledge.

Pure strength and intuition did not carry me far.

I looked around: others made things look easy with graceful efficiency.

But I should not have been surprised. I was comparing my zero-hours experience with well-practiced, skilled participants. Not a fair comparison.

Sometimes, even the first few steps can call for domain knowledge and guidance.

And learning new things requires patience and humility.

Be sure to do it regularly.

We could go bowling, or we could go bouldering.
We could play cards, or we could go for a hike.
We could play basketball, or we could play catch.

Depending on the group, sometimes it’s more fun to choose the activity where we don’t end with labels of winners and losers.

Competition can be a lot of fun. But just playing to play can be a lot of fun for everyone, no matter how things turn out.

When we have nothing to say, or when we “can’t think of anything”, or when we’re out of ideas — it’s a reflection of our current mindset. It’s not a reflection of the infinite universe, the availability of ideas, or a lack of inspirational topics — it’s because of a temporary limitation we’ve allowed to take hold in our mind.

We can unlock at will; it’s our choice.

When an audience is smaller than you expect, it’s tempting to feel a little let down.

Get over that feeling quickly.

Lean in. Double down.

Whatever craft you bring, bring it to the fullest. This is an opportunity for you to shine.

For those who are present, let them experience the best you have to offer. Forget about the “lite” version of you. That doesn’t exist.

When you look at the audience, recalibrate: this group is now one hundred percent attendance. Serve them well.

In the crescendo that precedes an event, there often comes a moment of stillness. Of holding one’s breath. A collective pause.

Anticipation can prompt a host of activities and emotions. We prepare personally and socially in many ways.

But with heightened anticipation — as we draw near — we experience a kind of quiet.

There’s a pause in conversation. A settling of movement. A silent watchfulness. A focused attention.

And like a symphonic caesura, life then resumes and carries forward. Anticipation, pause, release. Preparation, yield, continuation. Like respiration, it’s the natural way of things.

It’s so important to be thoughtful. To consider — ahead of time — what you’ll say, how you’ll perform, the way you’ll act.

Yet when we do this too intensely in real-time, we miss what’s right in front of us. We’re pulled out of the present, lost in our own thoughts.

To be so sure that we’re responding clearly and from the heart … that we’re not fully listening to the person who’s speaking to us. Or to be so concerned with our own performance that we’re not listening to the other actors. This balance is suboptimal.

Our brains are always thinking, always calculating. The job is to tune our ears and to direct our attention. Our words and actions (from our heartfelt intention) they will serve us well at the right time. Don’t miss too much of the present in consideration of them.

It might not happen with stone and iron, glass and steel, but many are incarcerated.

Information, gossip, entertainment, attention, food, status, distraction, achievement …

Prisons of our own making.

When we can free ourselves, we are free indeed.

It’s curious that the phrase is “trial and error” and not something else. We don’t say, “trial and success” or “error and solution”. It’s just trial and error, which sounds like an endless loop of frustration.

Perhaps it keeps our expectations measured, which is a good thing. Because trial and error is a valuable part of the creative process and fully worth our time. We just have to remember that error is part of the process and not always the end result.

Trial and error is just the opening act. The rest of the play is about learning, growth, and viable solutions.

On the one hand, we value hard work. Industrious and hard-working — these are compliments in our culture. We are people who strive.

We want others to be hard workers, too.

At the same time, we give a lot of credit to people who “make it look easy”. We value confidence, style, and a perceived effortlessness.

It’s a curious dichotomy (hypocrisy?) that can be overlooked.

Work hard, but don’t look like you’re working hard.
Push past your limits, but don’t look wanting.
Put in a lot of effort, but make it look effortless.

These unspoken expectations can weigh heavily.

When we more openly accept that struggling can look like struggling, trying can look like trying, and hard work can look like hard work — the more generously and effectively we can endeavor together.

Exiting a local healthcare facility, you’ll encounter these signs:

The quality of paper, layers of tape, and version history tell a story.

Firstly, exiting through these doors is not intuitive. Secondly, the prescribed way is not guaranteed to work. Thirdly, we haven’t figured out how to make this easy. Maybe we need another sign?

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Good user design is often invisible. It requires no labeling, no signage, no instructions. The design is self-instructive.

A clearly-worded, well-placed sign can solve some headaches. (The PUSH sign affixed above the pull handle, for example.) But even obnoxiously visible signs don’t always override instinct.

It’s a cautionary tale. Arrows and labels are imperfect solutions to flawed design. Wherever possible, begin with thoughtful design.

Leroy Anderson began writing Sleigh Ride — the wintry orchestral standard with the clip-clop horse sounds, the crack of the whip, and the trumpet horse whinny — during a heat wave in July, 1946.

Our surroundings can inspire us — both for what they are and for what they are not. By what we see and by what we long to see.

When something in the universe seeks expression, it can do so independent of seasonal changes.

You might self-identify as someone who is “not good with names”. And maybe you’re right.

But don’t give up; learning names — even if it’s just some names — is worthwhile.

Dale Carnegie’s wisdom endures: “Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

If you’re not naturally skilled in this area, keep trying. Where you succeed, you’ll be hugely appreciated.

Someone who’s hungry will eventually win-out over a quick study.

The quick study gets off to an early start but the one who is hungry continues to work beyond the initial lessons.

And hard-won skills develop resilience — which is far more useful than an easily acquired adequacy.

Stay hungry.

Sometimes we take great measures to explain situations, to rationalize our actions, and to justify our feelings — when really, what we need to hear is, “It’s OK to feel how you feel. Totally OK. No need to explain. No need to apologize.”

We don’t hear this often enough.

As the saying goes: feel what you feel.

If you can understand why, all the better. But if not, that’s OK too.

Either way, don’t deny the feeling. Let it be.

“Sorry? I can’t hear you!”
“What? I can’t hear you!”

Two people had this interaction while standing next to a loud piece of machinery. Standing some distance off, I could hear both of them clearly, but they couldn’t hear each other.

Whether the environment is not conducive, or people are passionately shouting, there are many reasons two parties might not be able to hear each other. Meanwhile, those with physical or emotional distance can sometimes hear with clarity.