I discovered a banknote in my jacket pocket. I don’t recall when I put it there, so it was a pleasant surprise.

What sort of things, useful things, do you have that you’ve forgotten about? What tools? What resources? What credit? What trust? What connections? What options? What possibilities?

Take stock if you haven’t done it recently; you might discover some good things you’ve forgotten about.

There’s an old saying …

In management: what gets measured gets done.
In writing: if you can make a sentence shorter you can make it better.
In sports: offense sells tickets, defense wins championships.
In racing: in order to finish first, you must finish.
In politics: you’re entitled to your own opinions, but not your own facts.

There are countless more. When sayings are grounded in wisdom, they seem to hang around long enough to get old. Not all sayings stand the test of time, but some of them are certainly worth internalizing.

You might spend a long time building the perfect campfire — stacking and arranging the wood and kindling with the utmost attention to detail.

But the fire changes soon after it’s lit. To keep it burning, you’ll need to tend to it. To add fuel. To make adjustments.

So it is with many things we pursue. Excellent planning can lay the groundwork for a successful start — but to keep things going, you’ll need more fuel, an ability to adapt, and a willingness to respond as things change over time.

We want to feel better so we can move, but sometimes we have to begin moving before we start to feel better.

We want to feel peace so we can forgive, but sometimes we have to begin forgiving before we start to feel peace.

We want to feel motivated so we can act, but sometimes we have to begin acting before we start to feel motivated.

The end is often where we begin.

Every repetition — every single repetition — is part of a pattern we’re composing.

For each of us, our lives become the story of these repetitions.

In this sense, whether we like it or not, we’re all authors.

The beauty is that we get to choose what we write.

Life gives us lots of lemons.

It’s not that we don’t know about making lemonade. It’s just that sometimes, we tend to overcomplicate the recipe.

My insurance company recently sent me a letter. It looked exactly like junk mail (but it wasn’t).

Times New Roman. Dense text with bold words, italics words, bold italics words, each variation underlined in a different way.

On top of that, the print quality was poor and the paper was cheap.

The whole thing looked like an unsolicited bulk mailer. It was a legitimate correspondence, but I almost shredded it without taking a closer look.

The lesson: formatting matters.

Aside from formal training, there’s a good question that can help guide design choices: What does this remind you of?

The answer to that question can tell you a lot about whether you’re on the right track or if some adjustments are needed.

“How you do anything is how you do everything.”

How do you approach things? What is your way of doing it? What are the fingerprints of your work? Of your life? To say that something has had your influence — what does that mean?

And.

It’s not just the big things; it’s the small things too. It’s not just the public things; it’s what we do privately too. It’s not just when we’re in the spotlight; it’s when we’re behind the scenes too.

How we do any of it bears the mark of how we do all of it.

It’s not static, but it’s throughout.

Consider free-diving in the Great Barrier Reef. The underwater experience is beautiful, but temporary.

You hold your breath. You immerse yourself. The pressure increases as you descend.

One makes these sacrifices to witness what’s under the surface.

So it is with many things in life. We visit physical, intellectual, and emotional places. We briefly inhabit these modes of exploration. But they’re not permanent.

They come at a small cost — a temporal constraint in service of a more lasting sense of wonder and awe.

What limitations might you momentarily hold in order to embrace discovery?

“Is everyone here?”

Who answers that question? Who has the awareness?

In small groups, it can be easy to know the answer.

In larger groups, we rely on various levels of leadership to know who’s present and who’s missing.

But in any situation, each of us can make our own assessment.

Who’s here? Who should be here? Who isn’t represented? Whose voices should be present?

And when we ourselves are absent, perhaps others will notice and speak up too.

Someone with half what you have is flourishing.

Someone with double what you have is struggling.

It’s not about what you have; it’s about your perception of what you have.

All too often, our suffering is of our own making.

Thich Nhat Hanh offers this coda: “There is no way to happiness — happiness is the way.”

Tools and resources can help, most certainly, but remember: you don’t need an app, you don’t need a subscription, you don’t need a special notebook, and you might not even need an accountability partner.

All you really need … is to do the thing.

Trust yourself.

The most valuable resource you have is your own mind and its reasoned choice.

From under the covers well before the sun rises, one might wonder: who’s out and about at this hour?

But from the street, one sees: people exercising, walking dogs, leaving for work, even talking with neighbors.

Creatively, intellectually, socially — when we venture out, we often discover that we are not alone. Others are out there in that space. Others are doing what me might also seek to do.

From the warmth of our beds, however, we’re left wondering.

In some parts of the world, people have no access to clean drinking water.

Where I live, it’s in such abundance that we use it to fill toilets.

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When we’re so close to a thing that it becomes invisible to us, a plain comparison can bring reality into sharp focus.

We listen to others tell stories we already know …

… because from time to time, we need to be reminded of what we believe.

A timer pre-determines the boundaries. Here’s how long you’ll do it. When time’s up, you’re finished.

A stopwatch only pre-determines one point: when you start.

Both tools are useful. Both mentalities are useful.

Sometimes we need the limitations of a timer. A chosen stopping point creates a goal, which adds valuable tension. It also presents important pauses in activity.

But in other situations, the timer is an unhelpful limiter. In counting down, we’ve already decided on the upper constraint. We get to zero and we stop counting.

The stopwatch, however — the counter, the habit tracker, the tally — offers a gentle invitation to continue. Go until you stop. If you can keep going, keep going.

Whether we use timers and stopwatches as physical tools or as metaphors, the lesson is in knowing which tool to choose and when.

When things don’t go to plan, how do you respond?

We don’t always have the presence of mind at the time, but that’s exactly when we should reconnect with our intentions.

Is this about me? Is this about someone else? What was I trying to accomplish? How can I refocus on the goal? How can I adjust?

Because it’s easy to get distracted by snafus. Unexpected changes have a way of drawing our attention away from intention and toward ego, frustration, impatience, and even resentment.

Have the wisdom to pause.

What was your intention? How can you pivot to realign with it?

Don’t judge someone unless you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.

Assuming they can walk.

Assuming they have shoes.

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Empathy is hard. Even with the best intentions, we still have blind spots.

But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try. Try we must.

Imperfect empathy is far better than perfect apathy.

Solving problems can be messy. Physical therapy can be uncomfortable. Mediation can be awkward. Reconciliation can be embarrassing.

But we know: doing the right thing sometimes means doing the hard thing.

It’s not that hard is always right and easy is always wrong. But we’re often faced with situations where doing the right thing means taking action ... and the easier thing is to do nothing.

After all, if doing the right thing was easy, we’d collectively do the right things more often.

If that’s the case, then how can we engineer our personal lives so that doing the right things is easy? How can we lubricate that machinery?

And for those in business and government, how can we orchestrate systems and organizations so that doing the right thing isn’t harder, but easier?

Jessie Potter (and others) have wisely said, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you always get what you’ve always gotten.”

The thing is, what you’ve gotten might not always be clear. Sometimes the feedback and outcomes are long delayed.

How quickly do you see the return for being a patient listener? How soon do you feel the effects of small, but regular unhealthy choices? How obvious is the benefit of a daily gratitude practice?

“What we get” can be a long story that unfolds little by little.

So we aim for better, we trust the process, and we’re not too quick to ask, “What’d I get?”