Good writing
There’s you not doing the thing.
And then there’s the story you tell yourself about you not doing the thing.
They’re not the same.
Our actions are one thing. The narrative that we create afterwards is quite another. We’re responsible for our actions … but we’re also responsible for the story in our heads.
And it’s easy to forget that we’re the authors.
Advice: be a kind writer. Write and live a story that serves you and others well.