In challenging moments, our reactions are often based on what we’re thinking and what we’re feeling.

It’s a good practice to pause and to identify these thoughts and feelings by asking:

“What am I feeling right now?” (and what’s that like?)
“What am I thinking right now?” (and is this true?)

But as soon as we can, it’s helpful to make the transition to a new line of questions:

“What am I learning here?”
“What’s this moment teaching me?”

And our focus naturally shifts from how we’ve been injured to how we’re growing. From how we’ve been unsettled to how we see through the settling silt.