Say it poorly
Don’t actually aim to say it poorly. But risk it.
Too often, when we don’t know what to say, we choose to say nothing. And there are times when saying nothing is fine. That is, it hurts no one. It’s inconsequential.
But in difficult situations — when we think we should say something but we don’t quite know how to say it — it’s good to try. The words might not be perfect. They may need to be clarified. But that you’ve tried to put words to feelings … that matters. To the listener and to the speaker.