On a crew team, the number four rower doesn’t turn to the number five and say, “I rowed really hard today,” expecting a pat on the back.

Everyone loves kudos. But, “I did my job!” isn’t praise-worthy. (We’re supposed to do our jobs.)

We can anticipate respect and camaraderie from the teammate working by our side, but we don’t get special acknowledgement for doing what we ought.

There is a flip side to this: it’s a great practice to catch other people doing good — and to somehow let them know.