Picking a response

“If they [do that] I’m going to be so mad.”

Sometimes we choose our future-response to an uncertain future-situation.

But if we’re going to predetermine reactions, why not choose a response that will be useful?

Hint: anger is rarely a useful reaction.

A better approach is some form of, “This might not go the way I want it to. If that’s the case, here’s how I’m going to pivot ... based on my needs, and what I want to happen.”

Not nearly as succinct, but much more effective.