Taking it the wrong way

When someone says, “Don’t take this the wrong way,” my body tenses.

Sure, I appreciate the warning, but my mind says, “You’re not going to like what you’re about to hear.” Something personal is about to be said or a blind spot is about to be revealed.

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If we’re the speaker — the one delivering the critique — this is an opportunity to pause (before giving the “wrong way” prelude).

How might the context be given? How might the advice be offered in such a way that the listener understands its motivation? How can the delivery be such that its generosity is evident?

And if it’s not thoughtful and generous, perhaps “not taking it the wrong way” is a tall order.