You might experience frustration if you give a gift ... and you want to have control over how the recipient uses your gift.

Maybe it’s money. Maybe it’s an article of clothing. Maybe it’s a tool. Maybe it’s advice.

“Here. This is for you,” is an act of generosity.

“Here. This is for you. Now do what I say,” is an attempt to gain control or influence.

We should be careful to know the difference between the two.