When we can't physically attend an event, we send our regrets. We explain that there's a schedule conflict. "It was a difficult choice, but I have other obligations."

And yet, there are times when we are physically present, but mentally elsewhere.

True, sometimes you're invited to fill a seat. To witness. To be seen.

But many times, you're invited because of your ideas. Your ability to contribute. Your personality. Your temperament.

On the occasions when you're unable to be present — mindfully present — consider politely declining the invitation.

We don't need the seat to be kept warm. We need you, and all that you bring to the table.